A few weeks ago, I thought of something during a walk. Like all good ideas, it came to me when I wasn't searching for it. "When parents manipulate children to have them under control," I thought, "it's a form of gaslighting." Simply put, gaslighting

Question 1: What is the sound of one hand clapping? Answer: The sound of one hand clapping is the sound of one hand clapping. Question 2: What is the sound of one child misbehaving? Answer: The sound of one child misbehaving is the sound

I passed him his tiny milk cup. He grabbed it and turned it upside down. Just like that, the milk spilled on his tray. I was confused. He was proud. A huge grin filled up his face. I filled up his cup again. He

“It was a tragedy of errors. Fourteen-year-old Matilda Crabtree was just playing a practical joke on her father: she jumped out of a closet and yelled "Boo!" as her parents came home at one in the morning from visiting friends. But Bobby Crabtree and

My boy was never a great sleeper. Our 15-month-long experience was consistent: no matter what adjustments we made, he woke up quite frequently. Some months, he woke up every hour. And some other months he woke up every two hours. This is pretty much

This morning as I was showering, my mind was busy with all sorts of things. I had just woken up. But my mind had already jumped on the wagon of worrying about work and house chores. My mind was on fire😟 "I should have

Today is 9th issue of The Apparent Letter brought to you on the 9th day of 2021. (I keep typing 2012 – damn it, muscle memory!) This week I'm writing to you about parent's mission. Do you ever stop to think – why did you become

Hi friends!– Your breath cannot linger in the past, neither can it rush to the future. It stays here and now, against all odds. Your breath is the never-fading rhythm of your life. It is what keeps you alive. It persists when you sleep.

Hi friends!– Every night, as I pull the zipper of my one-year-old's sleep sack from his chin towards his toes, I hold his chubby little feet in my hands and whisper to them: "Night night lovely feet, don't grow too much tonight, promise?" Then

Hi friends!– Writing to you from the peak of the holiday season. Although a fairly unusual one this year, the gift-giving storm is real. That's why I am dedicating this week's issue to the best gift we can give to our children🥁: self-esteem. When

Hi friends!– In most parenting conversations, I see a pattern. When faced with defiant behavior, parents desperately look for ways to change children. But, what if the best way to change our children's behavior was to change our perspective? "Are you suggesting that my

Hi friends!– A few months ago my husband and I lost a key chain that belonged to my husband's parents. Their car, home and office keys were on it, altogether. We looked everywhere, but we failed to find it. It was gone. There was

Hi friends!– Welcome to the third issue of The Apparent Letter. (If you've missed the previous issues you can view them here.) I get a calm joy from writing this letter. It's a break from the attention-hunting mindset of the internet. As I hand-craft

Hi friends!– Welcome to the second issue of The Apparent Letter. For those who missed it, here's the first issue. Last week was crazy. I got an overwhelming support for starting this newsletter from amazing parents I met online. The reason I started this

Hi friends!– Welcome to the very first issue of The Apparent Letter (excited!). A very special topic has been in mind for a while. It's called child as a raisin. Have you ever eaten a raisin as if it's your first time? It's not